Friends and family are notoriously known as the most important people in a person’s life. With that being said, you can put a safe bet on the fact that they are also the most influential people in your partner’s life. We tend to trust our friends and family on a deeper level then just about anyone else in our lives and for that reason their opinion of you will be one of the most important factors in the length and success of your relationship.
Here’s a look at a few of your partner’s family and friends that you will encounter throughout your relationship and what you can do to gain a positive impression from them:
Meeting the grandparents can sometimes be even more important than meeting the parents. Many times grandparents develop a trusting relationship with their grandchildren that just can’t be matched by anyone else in their lives. For this reason it is essential to be on the top of your game when meeting the grandparents.
The old adage is that winning over the grandparents requires being old fashioned and displaying chivalry, but in reality the most important factor to them is that they see that you respect people. Grandparents tend to be much wiser than we perceive them to be and it doesn’t take much for them to realize whether you’re a respectful person. They know it’s easy to show respect to their grandchild while your in front of them, but how do you treat that waitress that just brought you the wrong sandwich while you were out to eat with them? Little things like that get noticed, and they won’t be afraid to let their grandchild know what they think.
The Best Friend
This is always the toughest one to judge because best friends are nearly impossible to please. Your in a situation where your dealing with the person that your partner has spent most of their downtime with throughout their lives and you’ve just come along and kidnapped most of that time. That can create quite the problem before the two of you even get the chance to meet.
Success with her best friend will require you to be outgoing and understanding from the beginning. Your most likely already going to be going up against a bad situation, so you want to do everything you can to make the best of it. Talking to her best friend and getting to know her can really help smooth over the jealousy that she is naturally already facing.
One of the most successful tactics that you can use when first having a conversation with the best friend is to listen. People like to be listened to, and they especially like to feel like the person listening to them actually cares about what they are talking about. Take the time to listen to her and take interest in what she’s saying and you’ll make it nearly impossible for her to dislike you, even as bad as she’ll want to.
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